As always, it's in the small moments where this sitcom triumphs. Untidy Steve having an uncharacteristic obsession with clothes hangers facing the same way, a scene where he implores Becky to lick a cut on his arm as a test of her love, or everyone's fascination with the fact Steve likes eating apples (particularly because he rubs them on his shirt before eating them, which Becky thinks is an old-fashioned mannerism). If nothing else, Him & Her perfectly captures a sense of humdrum reality, especially because the flat itself is so credibly unpleasant and cluttered. You can almost smell the laundry basket. The performances are also a key reason to watch; Tovey and Solemani make for a highly convincing couple, and Wilkinson casually steals scenes as socially inept loner Dan. The best example here being when Dan showed Steve a photo of his plain and podgy girlfriend, seeking Steve's approval with an admission he'd love to sleep with her.
Still, I agree that some of Him & Her's strengths can also be seen as weaknesses. I don't blame people for finding the characters unlikeable and the whole setup rather laborious. It's not a dynamic laugh riot, nor does it have many moments that stick in the memory (although I still giggle over the moment in series 1 when Steve was caught about to masturbate to porn), but it's a sitcom that knows what it wants to be, and succeeds on those terms.
written by Stefan Golaszewski / directed by Richard Laxton / 1 November 2011 / BBC Three